It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? – Lily and Dunkin

imwayr-2015 (1).png

It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? From Picture Books to YA! is hosted by Jen Vincent  @Teach Mentor Texts & Kellee Moye @ Unleashing Readers

A few years ago, one of my son’s best friends began transitioning into the gender he knew in his heart he was meant to be.  Alex began the journey to Ali, and all of those who knew and loved Ali went on that journey, too.  We watched from a  distance, and learned about the difficulty of her journey through the stories our son shared.  It took bravery and fortitude on Ali’s part, and though we cheered her on, we were also terrified for her; the world is changing its ideas about gender and identity slowly, and it is still a dangerous place for its transgendered citizens.  We know this from following the news, learning about such journeys from friends and relatives, and (for those of us who teach) having to open our hearts and minds to students who have begun this journey at especially vulnerable times in their lives – in middle school, for instance.

That is the story and setting of Donna Gephart’s wise and brave new book, Lily and Duncan.

Lily and Duncan.jpeg

Lily was born Timothy McGrother, but deep down Lily has always known that she was born in the wrong body.  Her beloved Grandpop, her mother and sister, and her best friend know, too, and they love and support Lily even though they know that it will not be easy for her to finally claim the identity she knows to be real and true.  But Lily’s father fights every step she must take, especially the hormone treatment Lily must have before it is too late.  And, this being middle school, there are the usual cast of bullies to face, the “Neanderthals”, who call her names and torment her at every turn.

Then, Norbert Dorfman moves into town, and runs into Lily twice: once as Lily, once as Tim.  Norbert would like to figure out this puzzle, but he has  problem of his own: a bipolar disorder that he is taking medication for, and the mystery of his father’s disappearance.

Once school begins, Norbert (who Lily nicknames Dunkin due to his love of their coffee and doughnuts) finds himself befriended by the Neanderthals on account of his great height and their hopes for a winning basketball team.  But this leads to many conflicts and moments of soul searching for both Lily and Dunkin.  Middle school, it turns out, is the toughest time to discover who you really are and what kind of person you really want to be.

I loved the way Donna Gephart deals with the issues of gender identity and bipolar disorder in this fearless and compassionate book.  She writes as kids their age think and feel: there is heartbreak and humor, insight and delusion, kindness and cruelty, bravery and cowardice.  Lily and Dunkin have so much to figure out, and most of it cannot be done on their own.  They need their family’s support, they need their community’s support.  It really does take a village to raise a child.

Lily and Dunkin is one of those important books we bring into our classrooms and thoughtfully share with our kids so that we can all work towards making our world a better place for all our children.

 

 

Advertisements

13 thoughts on “It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? – Lily and Dunkin

  1. Thanks for this heartfelt review. You know the kids I teach. They have legs in different worlds, one that is very accepting and open to the new, and one that is stuck in the world of elementary school. I want to expose them to these kinds of issues but worry that their young minds might not be ready. What do you think?

  2. Wow! This is an important book. I love that books can help students figure out who they are and what kind of person they want to be.

  3. I love that you loved this book, too, Tara. The challenges for children who are struggling with their feelings of differences are immense. Gephart showed this well. I hope the book brings hope to many.

  4. Nice review. We have a transgender third grader who entered Kindergarten sure she was a boy. This is the first transgender child I’ve met in my teaching career. Come see my reading week here. Happy reading!

  5. I am so thankful that we are seeing these stories shared and explored – I remember reading George by Alex Gino and just finding it so upsetting to think that children are being forced to hide their true selves and live in hiding. No child should ever have to experience that, and hopefully we are moving towards a more just world in which people can be free to be themselves, whatever that means.

  6. Heading over to the library site to place a reserve! THANK you for the review and for sharing your personal connection.

  7. I’m looking forward to reading this book also. We know two wonderful young people who have transitioned. They and their families are heroes.

Thank you for reading my blog! Please leave a comment and share your thoughts.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s